Moving Forward

Now that I’m officially single it is time to get on with my life. Between the divorce and the comments on my last post I’ve taken a lot of lumps in the past few days. I’m not going to let that get me down though, and I am moving forward. I don’t have a complete plan yet because I’m not sure what all I want to do.

The first thing I’m going to do is get a job. My preference is to get a job as an attorney. Despite what has been said in the comments it is not easy to get a job in the legal field and I certainly haven’t turned down a legal job.
I have applied several places and I had one interview that I thought went well, but I haven’t heard from them yet. I’ll continue to search for legal work, but if I don’t have a job by the end of the month I’ll take a non-legal job.

I’m also moving to Kansas City. There aren’t many job opportunities where I’m currently living. All of the companies I’ve applied to have been in Kansas City. Even if I’m not able to get a legal job right away, I still think I’ll have a much better chance of getting one in KC. A change of scenery will be nice too.

One other thing I want to do is to increase my self-employment income. Although I don’t have a job, I was making thousands in self-employment income just a few months ago. If I can get back to that level and have job income as well I should be able to pay off my van loan quickly and replenish my savings. After that is done I could start on my student loans.

There isn’t much of a plan yet. Once I have moved and gotten a job I’ll work on setting goals and a plan to achieve them.

29 thoughts on “Moving Forward”

  1. Moving forward is all you can do, one step at a time. I see that you had many “harsh” comments on your last post , I am the last person to judge, especially on nothing more than a “Birds Eye” view of a 2 minute post. Living in your van is an excellent way of keeping costs down and I am sure you will find work soon. Keep your head up and do not let negative comments steer you away from what you feel is right.

  2. Hey Andy, sorry to hear that things have been so difficult lately. I couldn’t imagine how tough it must be to go through a divorce and then I’d imagine the comments the other day didn’t help. It’s important to have thick skin as a blogger though. I’ve gotten a lot of critical comments and it’s hard not to let it get to you, but I hope you can let it roll off your back.

    Maybe when you’re settled in KC we can meet up sometime? I don’t know any other bloggers here in the area but maybe we can grab some coffee in the next few months.

    • I do have a pretty thick skin, but the combination of things did get to me. The critical comments weren’t unexpected, but the number and tone weren’t what I expected.

      We can definitely meet up sometime. I might be in Kansas City as soon as next week.

  3. Andy – I couldn’t believe the comments that I saw. Sometimes this who internet thing makes people more bold than they would be in person. I hope things are the up for you. Good luck getting a job and building your self employment income back up!

  4. Andy, I’m sorry.

    The nice thing about goals and plans is that they can change. You’ll land on your feet…it just takes a little time. A move to a new area which is more cosmopolitan than your current place, I would think, would have more legal opportunities — more opportunies, period.

    Best of luck, and keep us posted how you’re doing. Think of it as serving as inspiration for others who are going through similar difficult situations. You’ll be all right in time. You can do this.

    Latest post: For the Birds

  5. I think it’s fine that you are taking your time to pay off your debt. As long as you’re planning to pay it off, it’s not stealing. If you make it to Oregon, let me know and I’ll buy you a drink. 😉

  6. I wish that you hadn’t closed the comments on your last post. I really would have liked the chance to “get a hold of” a few of them.
    Yes, you have taken a few lumps lately. You are a strong person and you will come out ahead because of what you have survived. I also want to remind you of a few things that the nasty commentors would want you to forget. You have helped so many people by being honest and your writing about your struggles. It isn’t easy to put it all out there and you do that to not only help yourself but others too. You have helped me in the past with kind encouragement and good ideas. Please never stop writing because you do inspire me to do more with less.

    • I didn’t want the comments to turn into a big argument. That is why I didn’t say much to defend myself even though there were some inaccurate things said in the comments.

      I’m glad to know I have helped you.

  7. Good luck in your new venture. Any blogger knows that when we write we are putting some of our private lives out there for everyone to read. Hang in there and when one door closes another door opens.

  8. Hi Andy,

    Good luck with the next step in your life. I read the comments in your previous post and was truly baffled. To be a blogger sometimes you have to have tough skin and let things roll. I think you did a great job with it. You are correct, finding a job in the law field is not as easy as it was years ago.

    While you are waiting for the next door to open, praise Him in the hallway! 😉

  9. I am just catching up with sites (August has been crazy) that I like. I am really sorry to hear about your divorce. Was it a long time coming or something sudden?

    For what it is worth, I would have backed you up on that previous post. The rules are set you are just abiding by them. Do have to admit took real balls for the soon to be ex to comment wow.

    If there is anything I can do to help out do not hesitate to shoot me an email.


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